Muslim Parents’ Communication Approach to Adolescents according  to Al-Tarbiyyah Al-Rashīdah by ‘Abd al-Karīm Bakkār

Safinah Ismail; Abur Hamdi Usman; Mariam Abd. Majid; Abdul Wahab Md.  Ali; Rosmawati Mohamad  Rasit; Zulkefli Aini; Siti Khaulah Mohd Hamzah  Murghayah

doi:10.32350/jitc.141.17

Safinah Ismail Department of Dakwah and Usuluddin (JDUS), Faculty of Islamic Civilisation Studies (FPPI), Selangor Islamic University (UIS), Malaysia https://orcid.org/0000-0001-6822-9993
Abur Hamdi Usman Department of Dakwah and Usuluddin (JDUS), Faculty of Islamic Civilisation Studies (FPPI), Selangor Islamic University (UIS), Malaysia https://orcid.org/0000-0001-5179-1648
Mariam Abd. Majid Department of Dakwah and Usuluddin (JDUS), Faculty of Islamic Civilisation Studies (FPPI), Selangor Islamic University (UIS), Malaysia https://orcid.org/0000-0001-6734-7015
Abdul Wahab Md. Ali Academy of Contemporary Islamic Studies (ACIS), MARA University of Technology, Malaysia https://orcid.org/0009-0001-8558-7060
Rosmawati Mohamad Rasit Faculty of Islamic Studies, National University of Malaysia (UKM), Malaysia https://orcid.org/0000-0001-6279-6735
Zulkefli Aini Faculty of Islamic Studies, National University of Malaysia (UKM), Malaysia https://orcid.org/0000-0003-0418-9253
Siti Khaulah Mohd Hamzah Murghayah Department of Dakwah and Usuluddin (JDUS), Faculty of Islamic Civilisation Studies (FPPI), Selangor Islamic University (UIS), Malaysia https://orcid.org/0009-0006-5183-6627

DOI: https://doi.org/10.32350/jitc.141.17

Keywords: Abd al-Karīm Bakkār, adolescent, Al-Rashīdah Al-Tarbiyyah, communication, Muslim family

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The current study attempted to define and examine the concept of family in the Islamic context. Specifically, it addressed the issues and challenges related to parental communication in the modern day based on the strategies and suggestions proposed by ‘Abd al-Karīm Bakkār in his book Al-Tarbiyyah Al-Rashīdah (Successful Family Upbringing). This book is a guide to cultivating and nurturing a Muslim family in order to achieve the best outcomes through effective communication. The ultimate aim is to fortify the familial bonds. The current study used content analysis to examine and interpret the data extracted from the fourth volume of series entitled Al-Murāhiq (The Adolescents). This volume was the study’s main reference as it is set against the background of contemporary Muslim family issues along with suggested solutions by the author who identified certain strategies to enhance family ties and bonds. These strategies include kindness to relatives, effective interaction, listening, respecting, non-domination, and not pressurizing 5the children. Moreover, avoiding provocation of anger, paying attention to their problems as well as being polite to them are also among the strategies to enhance familial ties. The findings highlight the effectiveness of these strategies in bringing about positive parenting. Muslim parents therefore, can use ‘Abd al-Karīm Bakkār’s communication strategies to enhance their children’s moral, physical, mental, and spiritual development.

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